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Man & Woman, The Marriage Covenant I

The purpose of this study is to analyze the spiritual roles of man and woman, a man and his wife, and a wife and her husband, as it relates to the spiritual guidelines mandated by YAH. This will help us to look at ourselves through the laws and precepts of Elohim to see if we’re meeting his expectations and receiving the just rewards of peace and stability as he has promised to those who love him and keep his commandments. We will be answering the following questions.

  • What was Man created to do?
  • What position was Man given after he was created?
  • Why was the woman created?
  • How does a man equip himself to walk righteously and fulfill his role?
  • What are the roles and position of the man now?
  • What characteristics should be exemplified by man?
  • What should a righteous woman look for in a man?
  • What’s the woman’s part in the family?
  • What happens when either the man or the woman doesn’t fulfill their role?

Once we establish an understanding on this topic it’s our hope that you will take the time to do a self analysis to see if your meeting the expectations of Elohim and address any transgressions that exist.

One of our primary concerns should be the relationship between the man, the woman, and Elohim. This is a critical relationship given that it involves our social as well as theocratic development. The proper understanding of this union and the roles and responsibilities of the man and woman has been slowly deteriorating. Through an exhaustive study of scripture, we will clearly present the standard and expectations of YAH, Elohim.

Since this study primarily addresses man and women’s role in a marriage relationship, lets take a moment to view statistics on the status of the family in the United States.

Ethnic Population Breakdown

  • White American, 74.7%, or about 215.3 million (the definition of White includes European Americans, Middle Eastern Americans (e.g. Arab Americans, Iranian Americans), Central Asian Americans, and Hispanic Americans who reported as White in the 2000 Census)
  • Black American 12.1% or 34.9 million
  • Asian American (Includes people from the subcontinent and southeast asia) 4.3% or 12.5 million
  • American Indian 0.8% or 2.4 million
  • Native Hawaiian or other Pacific Islander 0.1% or 0.4 million
  • Some other race 6% or 17.3 million
  • Two or more races 1.9% or 5.6 million

Single Parent Households

  • 23% Non-Hispanic White
  • 65% Black or African American
  • 49% American Indian
  • 17% Asian and Pacific Islander
  • 36% Hispanic or Latino
  • Total single parent households 32%

Current statistics show 1/2 of all marriages ending in divorce with the primary reason representing 23% of the married population as infidelity. This does not take into account the number of families that exist outside of marriage, where the man and woman never made a commitment to one another but have a child.

Teens account for almost 13 percent of all births in the United States (23% for African Americans, 23% for Native Americans, and 17% for Hispanic Americans, 11% of white births). Approximately one million adolescent girls become pregnant each year, with half ending in birth. The majority of these pregnancies (67%) involve an adult male over the age of twenty.

Out-of-wedlock Babies

The percentage of births to unmarried women has steadily increased in the past few decades, from 5.3 percent in 1960 to 36.8 percent in 2005. They break down as follows:

  • 69.5 percent of all births to non-Hispanic black women
  • 63.3 percent of births of American Indian or Alaskan native woman
  • 47.9 percent of births to Hispanic women
  • 25.4 percent for non-Hispanic white women
  • 16.2 percent for Asian or Pacific Islander women

If these same trends continue the biblically defined family and marriage relationship will become completely non existent. Its momentum among the ethnic Hebrew, the lost children of Yisrael is already occurring at an alarming rate, and the problem behind it will be discussed in this study. Another interesting statistic among Black Americans, mostly composed of ethnic Yisrael is that 53% are in poverty, which is most likely a direct result of deviating from Elohim’s code of ethics.

    No plant of the field was yet in the earth, and no herb of the field had yet sprung up; for YAH Elohim had not caused it to rain on the earth. THERE WAS NOT A MAN TO TILL THE GROUND, (Genesis 2:5 RNWEB)

At this point Adam had not yet been formed, the term “to till” simply means to work.

    but a mist went up from the earth, and watered the whole surface of the ground. YAH Elohim formed man from the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. YAH Elohim planted a garden eastward, in `Eden, and there he put the man whom he had formed. Out of the ground YAH Elohim made every tree to grow that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food; the tree of life also in the middle of the garden, and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. A river went out of `Eden to water the garden; and from there it was parted, and became four heads. The name of the first is Pishon: this is the one which flows through the whole land of Chavilah, where there is gold; and the gold of that land is good. There is aromatic resin and the shoham stone. The name of the second river is Gichon: the same river that flows through the whole land of Kush. The name of the third river is Chiddekel: this is the one which flows in front of Ashur. The fourth river is the Euphrates. YAH ELOHIM TOOK THE MAN, AND PUT HIM INTO THE GARDEN OF `EDEN TO DRESS IT AND TO KEEP IT. (Genesis 2:6-15 RNWEB)

YAH created Adam to work, he was not created to just do nothing.

    YAH Elohim commanded the man, saying, “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, you shall not eat of it; for in the day that you eat of it you will surely die.” (Genesis 2:16-17 RNWEB)

YAH created man to work and then gave him a commandment.

    Out of the ground YAH Elohim formed every animal of the field, and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. Whatever THE MAN CALLED EVERY LIVING CREATURE, THAT WAS ITS NAME. (Genesis 2:19 RNWEB)

The animals were brought to man to name because he was a prince over the earth. YAH commissioned and empowered this level of authority to him, he had dominion over all creatures. The scriptures say whatsoever we bind on earth is bound in heaven because dominion has been given to us, Adam named every living thing, and that became their name, bound in heaven.

    The man gave names to all livestock, and to the birds of the sky, and to every animal of the field; BUT FOR MAN THERE WAS NOT FOUND A HELPER SUITABLE FOR HIM. (Genesis 2:20 RNWEB)
    Elohim created man in his own image. In Elohim’s image he created him; male and female he created them. Elohim blessed them. Elohim said to them, “Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth, and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the sky, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (Genesis 1:27-28 RNWEB)
    YAH Elohim said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I WILL MAKE HIM A HELPER suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18 RNWEB)

YAH made the woman as a helper to man, someone that can identify with him. The commandment to man was to have dominion and multiply, YAH formed the woman as a helper and compliment, not a co-ruler. Each man is responsible for taking care of his own household, this means by working and establishing policies, procedures, and rules which align with the laws and precepts of Elohim to govern his family, and the woman needs to help man in this task. Man was given rule and dominion over his own house and is a corporate entity in the sense he’s responsible for the education, care, and necessities of everyone that dwells within his domain.

    Elohim created man in his own image. In Elohim’s image he created him; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27 RNWEB)

Both man and woman are created in the image of Elohim.

    For a man indeed ought not to have his head covered, because he is the image and glory of Elohim, but the woman is the glory of the man. (1 Corinthians 11:7 RNWEB)

Man is the glory of Elohim, and woman is the glory of man.

Man was given authority, however many have not taken it, they allow the woman to run the household, raise the kids, and provide for the family. This was not the command, man is to take control and his priority should be to meet the needs of his family by whatever means are available within the established guidelines of YAH’s law. Man should bear the burden of his house and the woman is there to help!

    Elohim blessed them. Elohim said to them, “Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth, and subdue it (take control of it). Have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the sky, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Elohim said, “Behold, I have given you every herb yielding seed, which is on the surface of all the earth, and every tree, which bears fruit yielding seed. It will be your food. To every animal of the earth, and to every bird of the sky, and to everything that creeps on the earth, in which there is life, I have given every green herb for food;” and it was so. Elohim saw everything that he had made, and, BEHOLD, IT WAS VERY GOOD. There was evening and there was morning, a sixth day. (Genesis 1:29-31 RNWEB)

Everything YAH created was perfect, there were no flaws in his design, however due to mans disobedience flaws were introduced.

    Every writing inspired by Elohim is profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for instruction which is in righteousness, that the man of Elohim may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. (2 Timothy 3:16-17 RNWEB)

All inspired writings are found in the books of Genesis through Malachi, remember when this was written there was no new testament. The new testament was compiled hundreds of years later, and mostly composed of letters and historical accounts of the time. There is no new doctrine in the new testament, just teachers helping to clarify and bring understanding to the doctrine and prophecies found in the old testament. In order for a man of Elohim to be thoroughly equipped and understand everything about how to live, he must be taught from the old testament where all core doctrines are found.

    If anyone teaches a different doctrine, and doesn’t consent to sound words, the words of our Master Yahshua the Anointed, and to the doctrine which is according to obedience, he is conceited, knowing nothing, but obsessed with arguments, disputes, and word battles, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil suspicions, constant friction of people of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth, who suppose that obedience is a means of gain. WITHDRAW YOURSELF FROM SUCH. (1 Timothy 6:3-5 RNWEB)

We should avoid any type of relationships with people who have these attitudes and traits because Elohim wants us to conduct ourselves in a manner that exemplifies his image. We live among the sons of Helel in this system and when we embrace and partner with them, we will start to learn and adopt their ways. The scriptures from Genesis through Malachi keep us on the proper path by teaching YAH’s code of ethics, which is his process for handling ourselves in all situations, they also provide the guidelines of how we our expected to live. We should withdraw ourselves from these people, so we don’t learn their ways and defile ourselves.

    BUT OBEDIENCE WITH CONTENTMENT IS GREAT GAIN. For we brought nothing into the world, and we certainly can’t carry anything out. (1 Timothy 6:6-7 RNWEB)

We should not center our lives on the things of this world, we should be content with what we can obtain while keeping the laws and precepts of Elohim first place in our lives. This means walking in obedience to his instructions on how to live life. The world focuses on possessions, and their goals are often focused on how to earn more money and have more things. They will often do whatever is necessary along the way to get what there after, doing what’s right in their own eyes. We need to adhere to the code of ethics of Elohim and put him first place in everything that we do!

    But having food and clothing, we will be content with that. But those who are determined to be rich fall into a temptation and a snare and many foolish and harmful lusts, such as drown men in ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. SOME HAVE BEEN LED ASTRAY FROM THE FAITH IN THEIR GREED, and have pierced themselves through with many sorrows. (1 Timothy 6:8-10 RNWEB)
    BUT YOU, MAN OF ELOHIM, FLEE THESE THINGS, AND FOLLOW AFTER RIGHTEOUSNESS, OBEDIENCE, FAITH, LOVE, PATIENCE, AND GENTLENESS. Fight the good fight of faith. Lay hold of the eternal life to which you were called, and you confessed the good confession in the sight of many witnesses. (1 Timothy 6:11-12 RNWEB)
    Finally, brothers, pray for us, that the word of YAH may spread rapidly and be glorified, even as also with you; and THAT WE MAY BE DELIVERED FROM UNREASONABLE AND EVIL MEN; for not all have faith. (2 Thessalonians 3:1-2 RNWEB)

The children of Satan are unreasonable, opinionated men, that are full of pride. These are traits that should not exist among true covenant believers, men who are full of pride and overly opinionated don’t accept correction and instruction.

    But YAH is faithful, who will establish you, and guard you from the evil one. We have confidence in YAH concerning you, that you both do and will do the things we command. May YAH direct your hearts into the love of Elohim, and into the patience of the Anointed. Now we command you, brothers, in the name of our Master Yahshua the Anointed, THAT YOU WITHDRAW YOURSELVES FROM EVERY BROTHER WHO WALKS IN REBELLION, AND NOT AFTER THE TRADITION WHICH THEY RECEIVED FROM US. For you know how you ought to imitate us. For we didn’t behave ourselves rebelliously among you, neither did we eat bread from anyone’s hand without paying for it, but in labor and travail worked night and day, that we might not burden any of you; (2 Thessalonians 3:3-8 RNWEB)
    not because we don’t have the right, BUT TO MAKE OURSELVES AN EXAMPLE TO YOU, THAT YOU SHOULD IMITATE US. For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: “IF ANYONE WILL NOT WORK, NEITHER LET HIM EAT.” (2 Thessalonians 3:9-10 RNWEB)

Shaul wanted to be an example of a man of Elohim, and he set guidelines by his own actions of what those traits should be. If a man doesn’t work he should not eat. How can a man take dominion over his house if he doesn’t have one? How can he take care of his family if he doesn’t work? How can he have the respect of a wife if he doesn’t do what Elohim created him to do? Why would a woman come into covenant with a man like this to be his wife? Sadly there are families where the roles have been reversed, the woman provides for the household and man does nothing, not because he can’t work, but because he won’t, and he has plenty of excuses why he can’t. This is not the natural order of things, when a woman is allowed to run the household on account of a dysfunctional male the whole family becomes dysfunctional and the children will not be raised with the proper examples they need to fulfill their roles when they have their own families. How can a boy learn to be a man when his father is not living up to this role or when there isn’t even a male present in the house? How can a girl learn to fulfill her role as a woman if her only example is a mother fulfilling the role of a male?

This does not mean a woman cannot or should not work, however the male needs to be fulfilling his role as the head of the house and setting down the rules and procedures to see it runs smoothly, in good order, without confusion and strife. It’s his job to see there is peace and stability in the home.

    For we hear of some who walk among you in rebellion, who don’t work at all, but are busybodies. Now those who are that way, we command and exhort in the Master Yahshua the Anointed, THAT WITH QUIETNESS THEY WORK, AND EAT THEIR OWN BREAD. But you, brothers, don’t be weary in doing well. IF ANY MAN DOESN’T OBEY OUR WORD IN THIS LETTER, NOTE THAT MAN, THAT YOU HAVE NO COMPANY WITH HIM, to the end that he may be ashamed. Don’t count him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother. (2 Thessalonians 3:11-15 RNWEB)
    The soul of the sluggard desires, and has nothing, but the desire of the diligent shall be fully satisfied. (Proverbs 13:4 RNWEB)
    The sluggard will not plow by reason of the winter; therefore he shall beg in harvest, and have nothing. (Proverbs 20:4 RNWEB)
    Slothfulness casts into a deep sleep. The idle soul shall suffer hunger. (Proverbs 19:15 RNWEB)
    One who is slack in his work is brother to him who is a master of destruction. (Proverbs 18:9 RNWEB)

A lazy man desire’s much, but has nothing, a hard working man will be fully satisfied and well pleased. If a man is not working and can’t support his family, he needs to be diligent to find a job, no matter what he has to do.

    Listen, my son, and be wise, and keep your heart on the right path! (Proverbs 23:19 RNWEB)

Sadly, many men lack the wisdom to act with prudence.

    Don’t be among ones drinking too much wine, or those who gorge themselves on meat: for THE DRUNKARD AND THE GLUTTON SHALL BECOME POOR; AND DROWSINESS CLOTHES THEM IN RAGS. (Proverbs 23:20-21 RNWEB)
    Don’t be envious of evil men; neither desire to be with them: (Proverbs 24:1 RNWEB)

A woman should not be with a man that’s envious of evil men, those walking outside the covenant, who most likely achieved their wealth through deception, cunning, bending the truth, ignoring his household, or worse. To exalt someone that has achieved their status through unrighteous means is a form of idolatry and will generally result in that person adopting the practices of the unrighteous.

    for their hearts plot violence, and their lips talk about mischief. THROUGH WISDOM A HOUSE IS BUILT; BY UNDERSTANDING IT IS ESTABLISHED; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all rare and beautiful treasure. A wise man has great power; and a knowledgeable man increases strength; for by wise guidance you wage your war; and victory is in many advisors. WISDOM IS TOO HIGH FOR A FOOL: HE DOESN’T OPEN HIS MOUTH IN THE GATE. (Proverbs 24:2-7 RNWEB)

A fool doesn’t want wisdom, and woman need to make sure they stay away from men who are fools. In scripture Avigayil is an example of a woman that was married to a fool, in fact her husbands name, Naval, means fool. Scripture says that Naval was obstinate and evil in his doings. (Read the account in 1 Samuel 25)

    One who plots to do evil will be called a schemer. The schemes of folly are sin. The mocker is detested by men. IF YOU FALTER IN THE TIME OF TROUBLE, YOUR STRENGTH IS SMALL. (Proverbs 24:8-10 RNWEB)

Those who falter are the ones that quit on account of stress. Many women are married to men that don’t have the ability to resolve issues and deal with circumstances, which is directly opposed to the image Elohim created. A man of Elohim will be able to lead his house, take authority, speak with conviction and purpose, and is consistent. Sadly, some men are complainers, looking for an excuse to fail. Man needs to have strong resolve, conviction, and walk in all the precepts of righteousness, taking care of his family and not making excuses for his shortcoming but learning from them.

    Rescue those who are being led away to death! Indeed, hold back those who are staggering to the slaughter! If you say, “Behold, we didn’t know this;” doesn’t he who weighs the hearts consider it? He who keeps your soul, doesn’t he know it? Shall he not render to every man according to his work? My son, eat honey, for it is good; the droppings of the honeycomb, which are sweet to your taste: so you shall know wisdom to be to your soul; if you have found it, then there will be a reward, your hope will not be cut off. Don’t lay in wait, wicked man, against the habitation of the righteous. Don’t destroy his resting place: FOR A RIGHTEOUS MAN FALLS SEVEN TIMES, AND RISES UP AGAIN; BUT THE WICKED ARE OVERTHROWN BY CALAMITY. (Proverbs 24:11-16 RNWEB)

Elohim didn’t create man to fail and not rise again, the righteous man will overcome and the fool will be overthrown. We’re going to make mistakes and fail, but will we take ownership of it, or will we try to blame someone or something else? For example, at the fall of man when Elohim asked Adam if he ate of the fruit of the tree that he was commanded not to eat, Adam replied “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” He took no responsibility at all for his actions, and he was the one that was given dominion not the woman. If we’re not willing to take responsibility how can we ever embrace correction and learn from our mistakes?

    Don’t rejoice when your enemy falls. Don’t let your heart be glad when he is overthrown; (Proverbs 24:17 RNWEB)

If we’re practicing righteousness and we have an enemy attacking us without cause, we can petition Elohim and ask for help, and he will step in and deliver us. When he does over throw our enemy, we cannot rejoice in their calamity lest YAH turn his wrath from them.

    lest YAH see it, and it displease him, and he turn away his wrath from him. Don’t fret yourself because of evildoers; neither be envious of the wicked: for there will be no reward to the evil man; and the lamp of the wicked shall be snuffed out. My son, fear YAH and the king. DON’T JOIN THOSE WHO ARE REBELLIOUS: for their calamity will rise suddenly; the destruction from them both–who knows? These also are sayings of the wise. TO SHOW PARTIALITY IN JUDGMENT IS NOT GOOD. He who says to the wicked, “You are righteous;” peoples shall curse him, and nations shall abhor him– but it will go well with those who convict the guilty, and a rich blessing will come on them. An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips. PREPARE YOUR WORK OUTSIDE, AND GET YOUR FIELDS READY. AFTERWARDS, BUILD YOUR HOUSE. (Proverbs 24:18-27 RNWEB)

We need to create a foundation and stability for ourselves before we try to buy a home. This means a well established job, counting the costs, and using wisdom and prudence in all we do.

    Don’t be a witness against your neighbor without cause. Don’t deceive with your lips. DON’T SAY, “I WILL DO TO HIM AS HE HAS DONE TO ME; I WILL RENDER TO THE MAN ACCORDING TO HIS WORK.” I went by the field of the sluggard [habitually lazy man], by the vineyard of the man void of understanding; Behold, it was all grown over with thorns. Its surface was covered with nettles, and its stone wall was broken down. (Proverbs 24:28-31 RNWEB)

A lazy man that won’t take care of his own house and lets it fall apart is a fool, how can he maintain peace and stability in his household? If someone will let their shelter and biggest investment fall apart, this same level of irresponsibility will be carried into all areas of his life. How do you think the children of a man like this will turn out? Because he won’t take responsibility the entire family will suffer.

    Then I SAW, AND CONSIDERED WELL. I SAW, AND RECEIVED INSTRUCTION: (Proverbs 24:32 RNWEB)

We can learn from the experiences of others, we don’t have to go through them if we can receive wisdom and understanding from the observations we make.

    a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to sleep; so shall your poverty come as a robber, and your want as an armed man. (Proverbs 24:33-34 RNWEB)
    By slothfulness the roof sinks in; and through idleness of the hands the house leaks. A feast is made for laughter, and wine makes the life glad; and money is the answer for all things. (Ecclesiastes 10:18-19 RNWEB)

Many women are marrying men that are slothful, envious, jealous, insecure, or unstable. Often times these issues can be traced back to their childhood, the way they were brought up, and the examples and role models they had.

    “Then the Kingdom of Heaven will be like ten virgins, who took their lamps, and went out to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. Those who were foolish, when they took their lamps, took no oil with them, but the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps. (Matthew 25:1-4 RNWEB)

The wise ones were planning ahead, many men don’t do this, they just live for the day with no thought of tomorrow. A man has to take care of his wife, which means planning ahead to make sure he can provide for her. This is stated in scripture, and it’s the same process the ancients used to create a good social construct of accountability and responsibility.

    Now while the bridegroom delayed, they all slumbered and slept. But at midnight there was a cry, ‘Behold! The bridegroom is coming! Come out to meet him!’ Then all those virgins arose, and trimmed their lamps. The foolish said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.’ But the wise answered, saying, ‘What if there isn’t enough for us and you? You go rather to those who sell, and buy for yourselves.’ (Matthew 25:5-9 RNWEB)

The unwise brides knew the bridegroom was coming but didn’t prepare, they tried to get the wise brides to share there oil, however they refused because they wanted to make sure they were ready, so they told the unwise to go get their own. We need to look at our own self preservation when we’re confronted with people that constantly end up pulling us down so they can get what they were unwilling to plan for themselves.

This same wisdom can be applied to other areas of our lives, there is always a place for charity, however we shouldn’t be creating hardships for ourselves to help someone that refuses to take the necessary actions to change their situation. If someone is constantly taking advantage of our good will, both physically and emotionally, we need to approach this situation through the dictates of scripture, so we can maintain the peace and keep stability in our own home.

A man can’t be head of his own household if he’s always looking for handouts. He needs to be willing to work to provide for his family no matter what he has to do. He needs to teach his children that they don’t receive anything without working for it. One of the prevalent problems in some parts of our society is the expectation that everyone owes them something on account of their particular circumstances. Our current welfare system further feeds into this non scriptural mindset. If a man wants to work and is going through a tough time, he’s the one that should receive help, not the man who always has excuses for not having a job, or why he was just fired from another one. We learn who the sluggard is through observation, we may aid him a few times before realizing what he’s doing, then it’s time to take a hard line. For instance, stop giving him hand outs and give him some work to do, let him earn the money.

    While they went away to buy, the bridegroom came, and THOSE WHO WERE READY went in with him to the marriage feast, and the door was shut. Afterward the other virgins also came, saying, ‘Master, Master, open to us.’ But he answered, ‘Most certainly I tell you, I don’t know you.’ WATCH THEREFORE, FOR YOU DON’T KNOW THE DAY NOR THE HOUR IN WHICH THE SON OF MAN IS COMING. (Matthew 25:10-13 RNWEB)
    HE BECOMES POOR WHO WORKS WITH A LAZY HAND, but the hand of the diligent brings wealth. He who gathers in summer is a wise son, but HE WHO SLEEPS DURING THE HARVEST IS A SON WHO CAUSES SHAME. (Proverbs 10:4-5 RNWEB)

We’re all Elohim’s sons, he created us all, so we need to decide if he’s looking at us as one walking in wisdom or one who is shameful.

    Don’t rebuke an older man, but exhort him as a father; the younger men as brothers; the elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, in all purity. Honor widows who are widows indeed. But if any widow has children or grandchildren, let them learn first to show piety towards their own family, and to repay their parents, for this is acceptable in the sight of Elohim. Now she who is a widow indeed, and desolate, has her hope set on Elohim, and continues in petitions and prayers night and day. BUT SHE WHO GIVES HERSELF TO PLEASURE IS DEAD WHILE SHE LIVES. Also command these things, that they may be without reproach. BUT IF ANYONE DOESN’T PROVIDE FOR HIS OWN, AND ESPECIALLY HIS OWN HOUSEHOLD, HE HAS DENIED THE FAITH, AND IS WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER. (1 Timothy 5:1-8 RNWEB)

If we don’t provide for our own house by righteous means we have denied our faith, this means we can’t be particular, we need to humble ourselves and do whatever is necessary to pay the bills, if we don’t, we’re worse than infidels, people who have left the faith of their conviction.

    When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now that I have become a man, I have put away childish things. (1 Corinthians 13:11 RNWEB)

When a boy becomes a man he needs to assume responsibility and become accountable for his actions, putting away childish things.

    Flee from youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace with those who call on YAH out of a pure heart. (2 Timothy 2:22 RNWEB)

Bound in the heart of a youth is foolishness, impulsive actions, and doing things based on emotions. When a boy becomes a man he should have realistic goals and objectives and should be creating plans and developing strategies to achieve them, this is how someone becomes a success. We’re not specifically speaking about great financial gain and owning many things, success is setting a goal or objective, no matter what it is, and accomplishing it through righteous means.

    BUT REFUSE FOOLISH AND IGNORANT QUESTIONINGS, KNOWING THAT THEY GENERATE STRIFE. YAH’s servant MUST NOT QUARREL, BUT BE GENTLE TOWARDS ALL, ABLE TO TEACH, PATIENT, IN GENTLENESS CORRECTING THOSE WHO OPPOSE HIM: perhaps Elohim may give them repentance leading to a full knowledge of the truth, and they may recover themselves out of the devil’s snare, having been taken captive by him to his will. (2 Timothy 2:23-26 RNWEB)
    If he takes another wife to himself, HE SHALL NOT DIMINISH HER FOOD, HER CLOTHING, AND HER MARITAL RIGHTS. If he doesn’t do these three things for her, she may go free without paying any money. (Exodus 21:10-11 RNWEB)

This is Elohim’s law, a woman has a right to be provided for by her husband. Elohim also allows a man to have more than one wife, but there are rules that regulate it. This scripture dictates the basic conditions for taking a first or second wife. If these conditions are not met the woman can leave.

It should be noted, in this country there is a law against having more than one wife, which must be obeyed in accordance with scripture that tells us to obey the laws of the land. The only time we should not follow the laws of the land is when they are directly opposed to the laws of Elohim.

    Again the word of YAH came to me, saying, Son of man, cause Yerushalayim to know her abominations; and say, Thus says YAH Elohim to Yerushalayim: Your birth and your birth is of the land of the Kena`ani; the Amori was your father, and your mother was a Chittite. (Ezekiel 16:1-3 RNWEB)

YAH is telling us a story where he’s the man and Yisrael is his wife, she was a pagan and an abomination when YAH approached her.

    As for your birth, in the day you were born your navel was not cut, neither were you washed in water to cleanse you; you weren’t salted at all, nor swaddled at all. No eye pitied you, to do any of these things to you, to have compassion on you; but you were cast out in the open field, for that your person was abhorred, in the day that you were born. When I passed by you, and saw you weltering in your blood, I said to you, [Though you are] in your blood, live; yes, I said to you, [Though you are] in your blood, live. I caused you to multiply as that which grows in the field, and you increased and grew great, and you attained to excellent ornament; your breasts were fashioned, and your hair was grown; yet you were naked and bare. (Ezekiel 16:4-7 RNWEB)

When YAH met the woman she was a mess, but he had compassion on her.

    Now when I passed by you, and looked at you, behold, your time was the time of love; and I spread my skirt over you, and covered your nakedness: yes, I swore to you, and entered into a covenant with you, says YAH Elohim, and you became mine. (Ezekiel 16:8 RNWEB)

YAH took her into his house and covered her and allowed her to bare his name, she became his because she accepted the covenant. Pay careful attention to these verses, because it’s the standard that must be met when dealing with a bride.

    Then washed I you with water; yes, I thoroughly washed away your blood from you, and I anointed you with oil. I clothed you also with embroidered work, and shod you with sealskin, and I girded you about with fine linen, and covered you with silk. (Ezekiel 16:9-10 RNWEB)

He cleaned her up and made her presentable at his expense. This is what a man does for his woman, he provides for her and makes her feel comfortable.

    I decked you with ornaments, and I put bracelets on your hands, and a chain on your neck. I put a ring on your nose, and earrings in your ears, and a beautiful crown on your head. Thus was you decked with gold and silver; and your clothing was of fine linen, and silk, and embroidered work; you ate fine flour, and honey, and oil; and you were exceeding beautiful, and you did prosper to royal estate. YOUR RENOWN WENT FORTH AMONG THE NATIONS FOR YOUR BEAUTY; FOR IT WAS PERFECT, THROUGH MY MAJESTY WHICH I HAD PUT ON YOU, SAYS YAH ELOHIM. (Ezekiel 16:11-14 RNWEB)

We should remember this example when dealing with our own bride.

Closing Comments

We have reviewed many characteristics that a man should not have, and showed examples of what mans responsibility is to his wife. Elohim created and image of a man, Adam, and he was given authority, established rules, policies, processes, and had to be guided by spiritual precepts and principles. Each man has this same authority and responsibility over his own house. As we proceed with this series we will continue to show what man should be doing and establish the woman’s role in the relationship.

 

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